How to Prevent Unfounded Assumptions?
My brother answers people very literally. I tend to do that to. It’s a sort of defense mechanism against assumptions. People tend to make a lot of assumptions in conversation. They assume you’re a friend who’s willing to help, they assume you are in the same group, they might assumee you’re stupid, but the biggest is the assumption you know what they are talking about, you know what they are thinking.
And that tends to be very annoying, especially when I have no idea what they want. When I do, I try a reply that will demonstrate their assumption is incorrect.
Example: I’m sitting in a class after the lesson ended wrapping up some things. A guy walks in. He asks: “Isn’t there a lesson today?” His wrong assumption: I’m in the class where his lesson should be and thus I know about it. This is a logical fallacy. He should have asked specifically about his lesson and if I knew anything about it and I would have truthfully responded I have no clue. But to that question I could only come up with “There are lots of lessons today!” but I chose the more subtle “I don’t know about you but I had lessons today.”
But, for some reason… I think this isn’t working. Is there a better system or should I just go wilder with my responses?
Posted in Life, Practice, Thinking Out Loud by Eran with 10 comments.